Or really where ever our bed is.
Andy brought a Sleep Number bed to our marriage and my life has never been the same. I seriously dread having to sleep anywhere else because it is just that comfortable. I’m only kidding, but seriously, a Sleep Number bed is like sleeping on a cloud. But that is not what this post is about!
Home. It really is where the heart is. Home has a new meaning for both me and Andy. We both grew up in sleepy little towns and the only moving we did, was to different houses in the same zip code. We grew up with our childhood friends and never really had to worry about making a new life somewhere else. Until we were married.
Andy and I graduated in May of 2008. We were married in June 2008 and moved in July 2008. Since then, we have been on this roller coaster of adventure and excitement. It has been trying, hard, exhausting, stressful and amazing. In case you were wondering where we have lived this our timeline:
- San Ramon, California (San Francisco) July 2008-December 2008
- Greeley, Colorado December 2008- October 2010
- Morgantown, West Virginia October 2010- July 2012
- Washington, DC July 2012- Present
- And maybe Hawaii in a few years… read more on that here
I joke about moving being a hobby of ours because I feel like every couple of months I am packing boxes again. We actually tend to keep our boxes, that is how much we move. I have it down to a science and I can pack up our whole apartment/ house in less than 30 days. Because that is usually the time we are given. When we have been some place long enough, I start to get the moving jitters because I feel like it’s time to pack up and head out.
I have mixed feelings about moving. On one hand, I love the adventure, the excitement and thrill of starting something new with Andy. But there is the side that I talked about here, the moving blues. The sadness of leaving, the starting over and stress.
But all in all here is what I have learned and for someone who is looking at a move in their future, I hope this helps!
1. God has a plan! He has orchestrated every move and placed us exactly where we needed to be, even if we felt it was not right at the time. He has blessed us in each place in more ways than one.
2. It will be hard… at first, but it gets so much better. God puts little things in your life to make it better from finding your favorite store, a kind word from a stranger, an amazing job or a beautiful day when the weather just seems to be getting you down.
3. Find a church. This is where we have made all our close friends! No joke, these people will love on you in more ways than one and establishing community is so important.
4. Have fun and take advantage of what’s around. Andy and I have always treated our first couple of months like we are tourists. We see the sites, travel, take part in festivals, outdoor concerts, take pictures, tour museums, see the home team play etc… it makes it feel more like home when you can identify with a place.
5. Cry. It’s ok to cry. To miss home, your friends, your parents, your old life. It’s good to miss those things because it means you have had great memories and you can always visit.
6. Don’t be afraid to talk to strangers. I have joined yoga studios, asked for friend’s numbers of people who live where we are moving, talked to strangers just to establish relationships. It can be scary but you will be surprised who becomes your good friend!
7. Pray! When the times are tough, when they are good, when they are just ok and when they are exciting. Back to number 1, God has a plan but tell him when you are mad, happy, needing encouragement and so on. On a tough day here in DC, I took a walk through the zoo by myself and at the end of my walk, I was at the Big Cat exhibit. My favorite place because I like to picture God as a lion like Aslan. I was the only one around because it was almost time for closing and I told God I needed a little bit of love from Him. I was just so discouraged. No sooner had I finished praying, the two male lions started to roar. He had me covered. I love how He comes through like that!
Remember. You are not alone. And if you ever need to vent, I am just a email away.
If you have any other tips! Please leave them below! We could always use them.